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Moms are to give joy, not enjoy. Wait! What?

Dec 19, 2022

Moms, there is a lot that falls on our shoulders during the holiday season. Decorate the house. Make sure there are gifts for everyone; on Christmas day and at all the parties. Bake extra food for the parties and giveaways. Bake extra for visitors. Clean up after visitors. Make sure everyone is happy. Spread joy. 

Then on top of the business we are trying to run and spreading joy in the family and in our community, there are loved ones who are missed. We want to make them proud. We want to remember them and the impact they had on our lives. It seems like we can't get it all done.

But can't we enjoy the holidays too?

Remember the reason for the season, I remember hearing when I was younger. Do we remember what the holidays are for? Are they just for making those around us happy?

What is going on in your life this year? 

Take a moment this week to sit down and journal. Write it out. Get it out of your head so that your head can think clearly. This next couple weeks is a great time to evaluate where you are and where you want 2023 to take you.

You deserve to enjoy this season just as much as everyone else.

Take time to take care of you. What do YOU want? What do you NEED?

Remember the airline stewardess, put your own oxygen mask on first?

What happens when we take care of others and we don't have our needs met? Have you thought about that?

When you are not healthy, when you do not have the air you need to breath, when you are stretched thin, you cannot give from empty reserves.

If you want your children, your family, your friends to receive the best you, then you need to make sure that you have a full tank and are full of joy, peace, love, strength and readiness.

Fill your tank so that you can give overflowingly to those around you.

What to do with those big plans when they don't fit your current tank size?

There are options to consider. You'll need to have a transparent conversation with those involved most closely. 

Evaluate what do you really want. What are non negotiables? What can someone else take care of? What can you miss and be ok with any reactions from others?

Remember that we are all in this same world. We truly want the best for each other.

If they love you, they'll listen and understand where you are coming from. Maybe they need to make similar choices.

Stand strong for your values and what is important to you and your family.

Don't give in and risk your health, values or relationships.