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Robert Peterson 0:23
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Rachel Wayte 2:44
Thank you for having me, Robert. I'm excited to be here. I'm excited to see where this interview goes. So I'm really open minded.

Robert Peterson 2:52
Well, good. So we just let our guests share their own entrepreneurial journey and what's led them to the work that they're doing today and the impact they're making.

Rachel Wayte 3:01
Okay, so I was listening to someone else, one of your podcasts and actually the lady was saying was a long story. I was like, Yep, this is also a bit of a long story. But I I'm a multimedia healer. So I haven't I haven't been this my entire life. I've been working for myself for about 1415 years now. I started out I actually used to be an opera singer. So I trained as a classical singer, and which, which was an amazing world to be in. It was also a world that came with a lot of difficulties, a lot of egos, a lot of competition, a lot of rejection, a lot of you're not good enough. And it actually was a place that dim my light. So I actually came out of that world thinking that's it. I hate my voice. And I'm never going to sing again, which is not really how you want to be. It's not really how you want to come out of. But I came out of me. I went to music college, and I came out of music conservatory and I was done. I was like that is not my life. I'm not singing that part of my life is over, which is tragic. But when you follow my story, it all kind of makes sense. And so I actually left that world and thought well, I better go and work in the real world. I guess I'll go and get a proper job. And that lasted about two years working in the in the let's say What do in the corporate world I lasted there for two years I saw a lot of unhappy people a lot of saw a lot of stress people I work I saw a lot of I work for a very intensive boss who kept me go go go go go to the point where after two years I left I had stress I unhaggle anxiety I was driving to work and having panic attacks in my car was not not a good place to be. But you know what I learned a lot from it. And I decided coming out of that that I actually wasn't meant to be working for other people. I wanted to work for myself. I wanted to help other people. I wasn't sure exactly how I was going to do that. But I was overcoming my own stress, I was overcoming my own anxiety. So actually trained, I started to train as a massage therapist. And that was sort of my segue into opening my own business, running my own business, I went into the holistic world and really began to understand people understand their emotions, understand their stresses, understand, you know, what, what stress can do to the body, what anxiety can do the what kind of what, what illness can do to the body. And Ken went on a journey of really working as a massage therapist for about eight years. And it served me really, really well. But what I realized on that journey was and this is why I hope your listeners are lovely and open minded was actually, I recognized that I actually had a lot of intuitive and spiritual and holistic gifts that I was that I had been denying and hiding behind. And I actually recognized that actually, I wasn't just a massage therapist that was an energy healer, that I was an intuitive and that I was a channel that actually, when I was working with my clients, not only could I was sort of sort of physically working on their bodies, but as I was picking up on what what was wrong with them, what, why they had trauma, why their emotions were stuck, why they were ill, you know, all this information was coming to me. And I realized, coming up to my 40th birthday, that actually, I wasn't meant to be just me in this room doing seeing massage clients, there was a much bigger purpose out there for me. But I was scared to step into it. And I was scared to own my gifts and say, This is who I am. And this is what I do. And because I was so scared of what people might say, I was scared again, at the rejection, I was scared of people thinking, Well, you know, this is all a bit too woowoo, what does all this mean? And I actually had to overcome it, I was turning 40. And I, I hit a massive barrier of fear, another barrier of anxiety and another barrier of I can see all these other people being really successful, but I'm not successful. So I had to go through that entire barrier, and really unpick my own emotions and what was going on there to come out the other side and go, Okay, I'm ready. Now, I'm ready to share my gifts, I'm ready for who I am. And I'm ready to show the world actually what I can do and how I can help people to heal. And what was so beautiful about that journey was that, within about a couple of weeks of me saying, I'm going to use all my energy healing gifts, I'm going to start using them and working them with my clients, my voice actually started opening up again, so my singing voice started coming out. And I actually started using a lot of sound and vibrations and harmony and singing around my clients to help their emotion. So this might be a bit way out there for some people, but because if people are in a lot of pain, or they've got a lot of sadness inside of them, actually someone's singing something, something so beautiful, and something so calming or something. So healing can really help the body to release whatever may be trapped within there. So that is kind of been my journey of to where I am now. So I use my voice a lot in the work that I do. And it's really quite a I work on removing people's past trauma, their emotions, their sabotage their limiting beliefs, so that they can it's genuinely entrepreneurs so that they can actually move forward in their business because a lot of people come to me and they're stuck. And they know that they've got this bigger purpose. And there's no there's more out there for them. But they're not able to get there on their own because they're sabotaging themselves. And they've not dealt with what whatever's happened to them in their past. Does that make sense?

Robert Peterson 8:38
I mean, the ideas, the ideas make sense? Yeah. The modality is new

Rachel Wayte 8:44
to me to you. Yeah, absolutely. Great. Yeah.

Robert Peterson 8:47
And so under understanding. I mean, obviously, I understand the body and I understand being stuck. I understand. Yeah. How did you make the connection between the singing and the sound as as a as a tool? Yeah. For for opening people up and allowing people to release the these things that are that are holding them back?

Rachel Wayte 9:10
Is that what, in all honesty, I couldn't stop it. So I'm very open energetically. And it was almost like what I was when I was when I was doing some energy work on a client and feeling their emotions and where work was stuck and helping them to remove them. It was almost, it was like my voice just, it couldn't stop itself from opening up. And I remember saying to a client, I said, I can't tell you why this needs to happen. But I am going to start singing and I can't stop it. And I know it needs to connect with something intuitive within me that knew it needed to come out. So initially I was I was sort of just singing and making the sounds because it felt like what I needed to do and it felt right. And then when I started actually looking into this, it's a lot of research into sound healing. A lot of research has been done into sound and any change frequency and vibration. And if you look at it in simple terms, like our emotions, our body weight, they're all made up energy or emotions have their own frequency, they have their own vibration. And sound also has a frequency and a vibration. So if there's an emotion or something that's trapped in the body, or your body is not vibrating as it should, the sound can actually come in with it with its frequency and just help shift that emotion that might be stuck. So if you look at it as frequency and vibration, that the energy is frequency vibration, emotions are and so we found the two things actually work work quite well together. And then a lot of people use singing bowls, a lot of people use the gongs you know, they go to sound bass, I just haven't had this voice that I was gifted with. And it's just part of who I am. And so that's how I put everything together.

Robert Peterson 10:50
I mean, it's incredible, obviously, the idea that emotions are frequency and yeah, and they get stuck. We've been taught our whole lives many, at least my generation, my dad's generation, especially men, right? You know, don't be angry and, and don't cry and don't experience these emotions. And so, so when, when we start to experience those emotions, we shove them inside, absolutely, and hold them down. And, and, and we're not taught how to experience them, we're not taught how to let that energy, proverbially, like flow through us, like, do what it's supposed to do. And yeah, I, I teach her the way I share about emotions is they're, they're like, the dashboard of, of your life. Like they're, they're, you know, they're warning signals, they're, they're telling you something's going on in your mind, in your body. And, and each of these lights that comes on is, is there to tell you something. Absolutely. And, and, and instead of paying attention to what they're telling you, we react to the emotion itself. You know, we lash out in anger, or we, you know, we sit in a corner and cry, or we experience this sadness, or these, these feelings, and we don't recognize causality, and we don't recognize what we're doing with them, right, like the like, we're holding on to this energy. And, and, and I definitely understand that idea. And so, so it makes perfect sense, the idea that sound matching that frequency could open it up and allow it to get, you know, to keep to keep moving. Yeah. Now, Dieter says we're gonna take it one step further. So okay, does this only work in person?

Rachel Wayte 12:36
So I don't see anybody in person face to face. All my clients are global. So I, I'm based here in the UK, I have clients in America, I have clients in Australia, I have clients here in the UK that don't live near me. So all my clients are zoom based. So no, this does not. This is this is how I want you to open your minds even further. I feel like we're, we're all energetically connected. And so if I can, for me, it works simply that I have a client in front of me, I can close my eyes, and I could feel exactly what's going on for them. It is a gift of mine, you know, I'm open. And I've been working like this for four or five years now. So I've been used to and it's taken me time to own this and step into this. Initially, I did you see people face to face until two like we went to it. I

Robert Peterson 13:21
mean, that was the obvious transition, right? Yeah, I'm a massage therapist. I'm adding this as an element of massage therapy that really connecting it to a next level, a different kind of therapy. And so yeah, there had to be that transition from working with massage clients to say, I think I could work with somebody that I don't necessarily touch.

Rachel Wayte 13:43
Yeah. And, and it does work for me. Actually, sometimes it's easier because if a client is in front of me, it's like, it's almost like, oh, the body gets in the way when I don't need I work with my eyes closed. And I see inside people's bodies, and I see what's going on. And so actually, it's easier for me if they're not physically in front of me.

Robert Peterson 14:02
Wow. Yeah. Yeah. So the technology allows allows that is amazing. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. I was speaking with a, like, cause himself a neuro theologian. Yeah. And he talks about the so he teaches, and he comes from a faith side where the real the true definition of joy and the highest level of joy is the face of God. And so scripture talks about God's seeing the face of God and anytime it talks about seeing the face of God, but that translates to us being made in the image of God, that that there is this this energy transformation, transition, communication that happens when we see other people's faces when we look into their eye and we see their smile, and we, we, they communicate, basically their face says, I'm happy to see you. And, and he says, basically, that the technology doesn't work as fast as they like This connection, our connection, even though it's amazing, right? We're speaking 1000s of miles apart. But the brain is actually picking up that signal faster than this computer connection can can actually communicate it. And so he said, people, especially over the last two years, when we've been isolated and, and closed off, have lost that face to face reception of, oh, I'm happy to see you. Oh, you belong here. Oh, you know that that connection of attachment to other human beings?

Rachel Wayte 15:29
Don't get me wrong, I love I love that attachment to other human beings. And, and if I could see all my clients face to face, I would, but I can't, you know, it'd be traveling 1000s of miles every day. Would that be? That would be amazing. But I'd be exhausted. I wouldn't sleep. And but when

Robert Peterson 15:52
I'm so glad that it does work. I'm so glad. The that is that is possible. And yeah, it even though I admittedly don't, don't understand it, entirely, how

Rachel Wayte 16:03
to understand it. The thing? That's the thing, like you can't sometimes understand these days, I still don't understand how can I how am I? How can I see inside somebody's body? How come I've got them, I've had to just go. You know what I know it works. Because I can see, and this is how I this is how I dealt with it when I first started feeling energy. And when I first started working with clients was was like, Well, if I can feel it, then okay, I'm going to believe it. And because I could suddenly actually start feeling energy within my hands, I could feel it moving from one party to the other, like, I had two magnets in my hand, I could feel it working, then I was then I was okay with it. And I've just had to trust. And I've just had to go okay, I can't explain this. I can't scientifically explain to you how this works. But I'm okay with that. I don't have to be able to explain it always. And that's how that's that's, that's that's how I sort of went through it.

Robert Peterson 16:56
Well, I mean, there's a lot obviously, in the spiritual realm that yeah, that we don't know. And I think there's a lot of fear around. And of course, the church, on one side is spread fear because of things it doesn't understand. And so it just puts a limit on it and says, Well, we don't understand that, you know, I was just watching a show last night that, you know, talking about the witch trials, and obviously, you know, none of the women that were hung or, you know, burned at the stake were were truly witches. And yet it was it was fear based. And so, you know, there was a great deal of fear driven decision making happening. And I think that's happening in our culture a lot today, right, the news is spreading fear and drama, because that's what people want to see. And, and fear. Fear is driving so many of the decisions around, you know, around COVID, around the economy and, and I think these obviously, we make poor decisions, when we're making them in fear, and we're making them in a state of fight or flight. And I feel like, in my simple understanding of the brain, there's, there's these two positions, right, the brain is either in relational mode, feeling joy, experiencing the positive emotions, and of course, then it's dumping the positive chemicals, dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, those endorphins that are designed to make your body feel good. Or you're in anxiety and stress, which leads the brain to be in fight and flight, which means it's dumping adrenaline and cortisol and other things that are designed to make your body run or fight. And, and most people aren't running or fighting, they're sitting at a desk, all stressed out, or they're driving, they're driving to work, all stressed out, and their body is doing these things chemically to say, ah, we got to fight, we got to save ourselves, we're gonna die if we don't if we don't defend ourselves. And so helping people understand how their mind is creating how their body feels. Yeah. And of course, you know, then you go to the doctor, and you say, Well, I'm sad, I just feel sad. And the doctors like, well, the only solution that I have is, you know, I've talked to my pharmaceutical buddy, and he's made this drug that will help make you feel better. Right, and, and now we're taking medications to eliminate the peaks. Really,

Rachel Wayte 19:28
to numb isn't it? I mean, some people I'm

Robert Peterson 19:32
absolutely yes, absolutely. But I think there's almost an epidemic level which to me says we're missing out on something we're missing out on, on on something that we're designed to be experienced. And and part of that is misunderstanding emotions, right and holding on to emotions, holding on to energy blocking energy within us. And, and of course, understanding how our thoughts impact

Rachel Wayte 19:59
those I could talk about this forever, couldn't we? But if we were taught as very young children, I feel not to let the emotions out to hold them in. You know, you see all the time, you know, don't cry, don't shout, don't be angry. And then it's so and I think we then learn that our emotions aren't important. We learned to dumb them down, we learned to think, Well, my voice doesn't matter quitter, it's because we're told not to speak out. We're told not to get angry because our parents can't necessarily deal with it. But if we could just allow all our children to fully express themselves, then I think the world would really start shifting because we would learn to process the emotions we would learn the emotions were okay. And we wouldn't they weren't ended up coming to someone like you or me 30 or 40 years later with, with all these with all these problems of how do I move forward? I feel stuck. And what do I do? How do I how do I work through all this sort of sabotage that I have going on?

Robert Peterson 20:56
Well, and in the limiting beliefs that somebody would sabotage creates that hold people back even even more, you know, that voice saying, well, this isn't right, or you can't do that, or who so so much that our brain holds on to, and, and being able to help people discover, you know, and dig, dig into those things or, or just let them go. Even if they don't understand it, I guess that's maybe that's the really cool part of the work you're doing is you're people process stuff that's holding them back. And they may not even ever figure out what it was.

Rachel Wayte 21:32
No, they don't necessarily need to and and that's the good thing about it, we can just sit there we can find the emotion, I can help them, let it go. We don't need to sit there and process it, we don't need to talk about it for hours, it can just it can move. I mean, it is a journey. It's an up and down journey. For anybody who goes on this journey of uncovering their limiting beliefs and healing and letting go of the emotions and moving forwards. It's it's a brave journey to go on. But it's really you either stay stuck, and you stay a bit numb and you don't really live or you go through it and you end up living to a much fuller, fuller extent I feel.

Robert Peterson 22:07
So what's what's a typical program or process look like for for someone,

Rachel Wayte 22:14
for someone who works with me, it really depends. So it's all so private, and it's very bespoke, so that they'll come to me we'll have a conversation. I'll work out from that first conversation, a fair open enough to be able to go through the work, they've got to got to be open sort of open minded and ready to go through the journey. If they've had quite a lot of trauma going on. And there's there's things that they need to work through, then I always make sure that they're that they have someone with them supporting them through that whether that's a counselor, whether that's a talk therapist, if we're opening up cans of worms and you know, things that have happened to them in their past, then I need to know that they've got not just me, but someone alongside them, that's going to help them with whatever may come up. So it tends to be a journey of about three to 12 months depending on how much we've got to work through our work with them once a week for the least the first three months and then from then onwards, we will see how they are doing if we can cut that back if we can go to twice a month or once a month. But it really depends on each person on their journey on where they've been on what they've been through. Depends on how long we you know, I need to work with them or they feel like they need to work with me. So it's not a one size fits all. It's very dependent on who they are and what they've been through.

Robert Peterson 23:29
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Rachel Wayte 24:22
it's been hard. I can can you imagine how hard it has been to go? Hey, I'm Rachel wheat. I'm an energy healer. I'm a sound healer and I channeled spirits and energies to not go or some people are gonna think that's a bit odd. But I had to decide I had to recognize that this is who I am. It's part of me. And if I'm going to make a difference in the world, because I believe I'm here to make a really positive impact. I have to own that and not be ashamed of it and not be scared of it. But it takes a lot of courage. Excuse me to do that. Especially when I come from a family that has had I've had no upbringing in this whatsoever who thought there's a judge for There's a lawyer, sisters, a Business Director, you know, I've got another brother who's in business as well. So they've all got these very defined Fantastic, well earning jobs. And they hear, hey, I'm the black sheep coming out saying all this, and it doesn't resonate with me. They totally accept me now, I love me, but it doesn't resonate with them in any way. What I'm doing, I had to work it all out for myself.

Robert Peterson 25:21
Yeah, imagine a judge and a lawyer. Like, that's evidence. That's evidence based on the facts in the book in the where's the where's the ruling in the courts that says this is okay,

Rachel Wayte 25:33
exactly. But here's the first person that my dad rings when he's feeling poorly and say, can you send me some of those Magic Bites? Rachel, you see, so?

Robert Peterson 25:44
So so he's opened up a little bit at least at least he sent me some

Rachel Wayte 25:48
love. Yes, exactly.

Robert Peterson 25:52
That's, that's, that's good. I'm glad that they're, they're supportive. And, and they're, and they're open. Yeah. So what helped you in that transition? And from from this place of who the world's not going to accept me to this place of, I'm going to put it out there whether anyone understands it or not?

Rachel Wayte 26:15
Okay. Good. Very good question. I think he got to the point where I was, so I wasn't unhappy, I just knew that I wasn't fulfilled. And I knew that there was more. And I knew that I wanted to make more of a difference to people's lives. And I knew that I was going to have to do something about it. And I think we got to the point where my purpose was becoming so was becoming greater than the fear that was holding me back. So I had the fear. And I had the purpose. And it came to the point where I can't let this fear stop me anymore, because it's keeping me stuck is keeping me it's, I'm not moving forward, and I'm not happy, I'm not fulfilled. So I actually have to put my purpose, first, I put the purpose first, and I trusted, I had to really trust and go, I'm going to put this first. And I guess I might still be scared. But that's okay, I'm going to keep moving anyway, I'm going to keep sharing this, I'm going to keep talking about it, I'm going to keep using it with my clients gonna keep getting some testimonials, I'm going to keep excusing, doing what feels right to me. And that's how I moved forwards. Because otherwise, I would have just I wouldn't, I would have just stayed stuck, I would have stayed unhappy, I would have stayed unfulfilled. And I wouldn't be doing what I'm doing now. So that for me it was the purpose became more powerful, more important than the fear that was holding me back.

Robert Peterson 27:47
So let's talk about your purpose. How did you discover your purpose? And and how did you declare or declare it? And

Rachel Wayte 27:55
good, seems really good questions. So I feel like the purpose I personally feel like because a lot of clients will come to me and I say, Rachel, I want to know what my purpose is. This is why I'm coming to you to discover my purpose. And I feel like our purpose is growing and evolving all the time. And our purpose is to listen, it's to learn, and it's to grow. And I think if you do those things, you listen, you learn and you allow yourself to grow, the purpose will become clearer, and your purpose will change as you change and as you evolve. But it came clear to me probably about four, four years ago, that my my purpose was to use my energy healing gifts. My purpose was to share my voice my purpose was to was to use my singing. And it was to help people to heal. And this is what my purpose has been for the past four or five years, I feel that that is now evolving. It's growing into something bigger. There's a bigger mission. And I can see that, but I don't know exactly how that's going to evolve yet. But I don't need to know I don't always you don't always need to know, what's the end goal. What's the end purpose, I think, follow the breadcrumbs and keep evolving, keep working on yourself. And the purpose will change but it will become clearer and clearer. But Nevers, I think a lot of people don't move because they don't know what their purpose is. But he will I'm not going to do it because I don't want my purposes. And I what I say to you is keep moving, keep evolving. keep learning, keep working on yourself, keep taking steps forwards and the purpose will change. It will become clear it won't it won't come if you just sit there and wait for it to appear.

Robert Peterson 29:34
Well, there's definitely that I think I agree with you that taking action leads to I feel like the modern the modern equivalent is is the rocket rule. And the idea that you know, Elon Musk had to blow up some rockets to learn how to fly one. And people don't remember but in the 60s NASA blew up a bunch of rockets in the 50s and 60s to to make a rocket work that landed people on the moon. And and I think the lessons in that aren't about the cost of blowing up a rocket, it's the lessons of, oh, this worked. This is that now we're headed in the right direction right now we're, we're learning a piece each and each time that we that we launch one. And so the business requires us to take action, personal development requires us to take action, especially in the unknown. You've just got to take a step. One of my favorite scenes from Indiana Jones in the I think it's Temple of Doom, but he's, he's in this cavern, right? He's, he's come out of a little cave opening. I know which one you mean. And, and he has to, he has to step in faith that there's this invisible bridge. Yes, but he can't, you can't see the bridge because the bridge looks exactly like the canyon. And until he takes that first step, and knows that it's there. And I think that's what action has to happen. You have to take action, to learn to grow to, but movement is necessary

Rachel Wayte 31:08
movement. Because people talk about the law of attraction. I love the law of attraction, you know, you want to think about what it is that you want, put those desires out there, imagine it happening. But then they sit there and just say, Oh, well, excuse me. It's just going to come to me. It's not you've got to co create and you that's the action part. You have to you have faith, take that step. And the universe will work with you. But you can't just sit and imagine it and manifesting. So just going to appear in your lap. It's it's a combination of that and taking action.

Robert Peterson 31:40
Absolutely. I used to feel like it was the person that was sitting on their couch praying for a job and saying God's gonna give me a job, but they never go out and fill out an application. Of course, yeah, it it doesn't come that way. So one of the attributes that that I believe also fuels, Joy fuels, the mind and helps transition us in that that attracting force is gratitude. How is gratitude serve you and how does it serve your clients?

Rachel Wayte 32:11
Wow, I love gratitude. I share this a lot with my clients a lot, I do a lot of group work as well. And I share this with I share this, I say about gratitude, I feel if you can sink into the energy of gratitude, excuse me, I'm still overcoming to me. If you can sink into the energy of gratitude, that is what opens the doors to all kinds of miracles happening in your life. I think if you can be happy, I think a lot of people are waiting to allow themselves to be happy. And I think if you can be happy yet, if you can be happy with where you are, with whatever it is that you have, if you can feel into the joy and the happiness right now, and sink into the gratitude of everything that you have. That is going to that data is going to start shifting and transforming your life I feel that's how powerful gratitude can be. I think I think waiting for perhaps waiting for happiness to come to you. You'll be waiting, you'll be waiting a long time.

Robert Peterson 33:10
That's really powerful. I think there are so many people waiting, waiting to be happy. We talked about it in, in our work that they've they started with a purpose and a passion and now they've the job is taken over and the work is taken over that passion and purpose to someday, right someday I'll take that vacation. Someday I'll spend time with the kids someday I'll go on a date night with my spouse. Yes. And and I want to say pull that back to the center, pull that back to where it matters and build your business around that and stop waiting to be happy. Find the way to build your business in a way that makes you happy every day.

Rachel Wayte 33:52
Yeah. And I think if you can just I think sometimes forcing yourself to feel gratitude isn't quite the right way. I'm going to sit here I'm going to write my gratitude list. And every morning I'm going to fit I think it's something that you have to really learn to sink into and feel and sometimes you can just you know, just by seeing something beautiful I don't know flying by in the sky because he lives a birds out the window right now. They're beautiful, you know, finding things like that to hold on to to be grateful for just spending a few moments with your child or having a one I love cups of tea over here. We're in New England, I love tea, you're having a beautiful cup of tea in the morning finding those really small things. It doesn't necessarily make the hard things disappear. It does mean that if you can practice feeling gratitude, I think when the harder times come in, you'll be able to navigate them a lot easier if you have this. The these these regular path of practice of gratitude or meditation or whatever it is, can really help you navigate when things because things will come into our life but helps you navigate those harder moments.

Robert Peterson 34:53
Yeah, I don't know that we ever eliminate stress. I think we train ourselves to deal with stress and and face it in a different way, where it doesn't become anxiety that we don't get anxious. Or if we do get anxious, it's for a much shorter period of time, and we don't get stuck in that anxious feeling. And I think, man, there's a lot of people that are living in that anxious. Yuck, emotionally, and they think that's normal. They think that that's where they're supposed to be. And that's how they're supposed to live. And I think it's, it's people like you and I saying, no, no, you don't have to live, they're meant to feel. And they feel that way. Like the like, it's justified, right? Like, they'll tell their friends, like, go this is, this is my lot in life, I deserve this. And God hates me and world is against me. And it's really that victim mindset. And, and it's great, because then you don't have to take responsibility for anything, right? Then you can say, well, this is just the way I'm supposed to, this is just the way it is. Rather than saying, I get to choose, I get to choose how I feel, I get to choose how I'm going to spend my day. And even if that means I'm going to choose to have five more minutes of joy today than than any other day. And, and I know folks that are listening, and if they're stuck, that sounds impossible, but But it's so it's so powerful. When you take responsibility for your life. You can shift everything one little bit at a time,

Rachel Wayte 36:25
because Can I share with you how that happened? How I managed to take responsibility? Because I absolutely have I have my husband to be grateful for this. And I often share this. So when I was feeling that victim mode place turning 40 where I was like, oh, everyone else is so successful. And, and I'm not going anywhere, and were with me, and I was crying a lot and emotional and we'd have all these conversations. And have you tried this, I've learned? No, I've tried it doesn't work. You know, all Me, me, me, all sort of like, you know, so I can't do anything about it. And he turned around to me in the kitchen one day. And he said, he said Rachel, because I was crying and he was like Rachel, do you really want to change because from where I'm standing, it doesn't look like it. And I was like, that was like a slow, boom, exactly that moment. And I was like, I love him for that. Because it was from that moment, I was like, Hold on the second. Like, I'm the only person who can do something about this. If I want to change then I have to do something about and it was from that moment on that I decided that I was going to change how I showed up in the morning. I was going to take I mean, it's been a journey. But it was from that moment when I realized I'm the only person you can do something about this. And I'm the person who has control of this. You can you can change how I show up what I do. But it was that moment of recognizing that I was just sort of in victim mode. And it seemed like I didn't want to do anything. And I felt God I'm failing him. I'm failing my daughter by being like this. And it was the thing that sort of really kicked me and made me go I'm going to change.

Robert Peterson 38:04
So good. Yeah, was curiosity is very powerful. And when we ask, when we ask the right question at the right time, can be so powerful to to open a door and so proud of your husband for being

Rachel Wayte 38:19
brave to ask that question because he is brave like that. He will ask those questions. Not everybody will. But it's it was I it was a pivotal moment.

Robert Peterson 38:30
Yeah, we typically tell we typically give people that great advice. Stop being sad. Like don't be angry. Just stop.

Rachel Wayte 38:39
Yeah. Not helpful at all. No, no,

Robert Peterson 38:44
no, that's, but that's the typical advice we get from our family and friends. Right. You know, just just stop. It does remind me of my favorite Bob Newhart scene and I might have to send you the clip or maybe we'll attach it in the show notes. But Bob Newhart did a Saturday Night Live familiar with who Bob Newhart was no, no. Television, had a television show here in in the 80s, and maybe into the 90s. But he was a he was a therapist. And he does he does a skit on Saturday Night Live that's called Stop it. And basically, his fee is $5 and he doesn't give change. And then the lady sits down and, and all she does is is you know, complain and drone on and all he says is well stop it. Just stop. Nope, just stop and she says something else. Nope, stop it. Yeah, it's, it's, it's those and then she tries to pay with a $20 bill. It's it's the it's a very funny skit, and it's just emblematic of the kind of help our families try to get in all situations.

Rachel Wayte 39:53
Sometimes you need you need someone just to come in and sit and say the right thing and it might feel hurtful. It didn't feel hurt. But some people that might have done, but it is one of those moments that really makes you stop and think,

Robert Peterson 40:05
Well, the power of curiosity, right? If he told you, Rachel, you don't want to change versus asking you, Rachel, you really want to change? That's, that's the power of a question that's in the brain. The brain loves to answer questions. So it doesn't, it doesn't react to a question in the same way that it reacts to somebody's statement. So very powerful. Now a good good for him and you should give him an extra hug today, just for remind me well. Alright, so obviously, connection is a really important part of the work that you do, right, making a connection with your client making connection. But how have connections helped you in in growing your business in building relationships with others? Such as? Who I just lost your name?

Rachel Wayte 40:50
Oh, Wendy, Wendy. Yeah. Wendy Bjork,

Robert Peterson 40:53
who introduced you and thank you Wendy for for that I would express gratitude for because I love obviously my shows grown because of people making great referrals and, and introducing me to great business owners who have wonderful stories to share, such as Rachel's today, and so thank you for that. But in your business in transitioning from massage therapist, to energy healer, how has connections helped? And, and? And how do you encourage people to grow connections in their own?

Rachel Wayte 41:24
In what they do? Well, connections for me are like, the, they are the lifeblood of my business, I would say. And for me, for me connections is about getting to know someone's good and making connection. If someone is not, Oh, are they a potential client? Or perhaps they're mine, you know, it's for me, it's about I do a lot of networking but and connection calls with people and for me, it is about building relationships, it's about getting to know someone, and then and then from that, that's how I sometimes I'm meant to connect with someone because I'm then I'm meant to be referring them on to someone else, you know, sometimes that's why I'm connected with someone and I love that. And so it is it is about getting to know someone and then getting to trust you to like you and and that's how people are then come into my world. And so a client will come in because someone said, Oh, I've worked with Rachel, I've spoken to Rachel, I think you should try, you know, surprise speaking to her. So for me, connections are the lifeblood of my business. And I'm, I'm very cautious, but not cautious. So very proactive in making sure that I have some regular connection calls with people that I've just maybe got to know on LinkedIn, and they will get to know then I'll speak to them for half an hour. And we'll get to know each other and if something comes out of that fantastic, you know, and if it doesn't, that's also okay. It's about getting to know someone and their energy and you just never know, I think having connections you just never know, when you're when when that connection. Is it going to become important at some point down the line. It might be I've had a call with someone two years ago and actually, they then reach out two years later and say, Rachel actually, can we work together? I you know, I remember a call from two years ago, well, they'll connect me with someone or I need to connect them with someone else. And I think connections are are the lifeblood of business.

Robert Peterson 43:15
So good. All right. Obviously, as a coach, I encourage people that hire coaches have mentors, how have mentors and coaches helped you?

Rachel Wayte 43:25
Oh, they have helped me usually I would say it was back in 2018 When I first took on my first mentor and she was the one who actually turned around to me and said she she was she was based in America actually however Natasha Hayzlett and she was the one who turned around to me and said in our very first ever call together he you don't just do massage you do much more than massage and it was from that call with her that everything changes so what do you mean you just do massage and and no you do much more than that. And it all changed from that. So I I've worked with mentors for the past four years and they have been massive in in in influencing my business and who I am and helping me become who I am today. I would also vouch for having someone to to work on your energy as well and do that internal work with as well because I think if you don't do that internal work, sometimes you can still stay stuck so if you have some way been able to work through the emotions however it is that you do I think that that work is also vital.

Robert Peterson 44:26
So good. All right. So obviously music is a huge part of you and your husband's life. Yes and what what other ways do you guys experience play and fun?

Rachel Wayte 44:37
We expenses Yes, so he's a composer actually he's a musician as well so it is massive in our lives. So music is often on in our house. We actually really really love open water we love cold water we love so that and that's a real love way for us to get connected is to go out in nature will swim in reservoirs will get in the cold sea. And some people think or even at this time. Yeah, even at this time of the year, Oh, it's right now it's December over here, it's freezing cold, I will have a cold bath in the morning, sometimes it will, we will go out and we will jump in the sea. And it's so invigorating. And it can really shift over you about before you get in the water. You're like, why am I doing this? Why am I doing this is crazy. You get in, and it's freezing, but you come out and you're like, I'm so energized. And it can really shift you out of feeling a bit stuck. And certainly at this time of the year to having a lot of energy. So if there's one thing that we love doing together, it's going out and getting wet and cold and freezing, but then in cold water together, but it's it's it brings us together.

Robert Peterson 45:37
Oh, that's fantastic. Love that. So obviously, you've designed and redesigned your business, from massage therapists to energy healer to obviously, in doing a lot of work online. And yes, in this online space. So I, I believe that we get to design our life, and then we can build a business to support it. And so talk a little bit about designing your business, transitioning your business to support your purpose.

Rachel Wayte 46:10
Wow, okay, so I am, I decide I managed to, so I wanted to be able to work from anywhere, it'd be able to be able to do whatever it is, when I was a massage therapist I was very much stuck on Well, I can only work in this one space, you know, and there were limited amount of people that I can see at one time. And they have to come and see me or I had to get my stuff in my car and drive it to someone's house. And that was quite limiting. But we want to be able to travel we want to be able to move. And we we want to be able to, you know, move house. And now we that that that option is totally open to us because I can work from anywhere. And I think that has been that has been a massive, massive part of of designing my business as being able to know that AI can work with the own hours that I want to work, if I need to take the day off, I can take the day off, I set my hours, you know, I only see clients on a certain certain days each week. And I'm very strict with that. So I have my own time. So I would say I let I don't let my business run me I do it the other way around. And that gives us a lot more a lot more freedom. And yes, that means that I do work strange hours. And sometimes I will work on a Sunday and I will work at a weekend. But but but because I choose to. And that gives me more freedom in a week too. So I really I struggled with the nine to five and I love the fact that I don't know have to work nine to five, it does mean that I sometimes find it difficult to take time out and I have to remember to take time out when it's my own business. But it's given me a lot more freedom. I love the fact that I can actually just work from home which which is which is why especially with a younger child daughter who's only 10 years old, gives us a lot more flexibility and a lot more freedom.

Robert Peterson 47:59
Nice. Alright, register. So our entrepreneurial audience been listening for 40 minutes plus and like you leave them with Rachel's words of wisdom what would you share?

Rachel Wayte 48:09
Oh, wow, Rachel words of wisdom Rachel words of wisdom or to not stay stuck, which are words of wisdom is don't be afraid to fail. So if you're if you're not moving forward, because you're scared, you're going to get it wrong, or you're scared you're going to make a mistake, I would advise you to take that action. Take that step. If you fall flat on your face, it doesn't matter because you're going to learn from it. You're going to experience from it and you're going to grow. And it's better to move forward to take action, make a mistake and learn from it isn't it is to stay stuck or not move.

Robert Peterson 48:39
So, Rachel, thank you so much for joining me today. Thank you so much for sharing from your heart. And you're welcome. We I've been energized and I hope that our audience has experienced and opened up to something new.

Rachel Wayte 48:50
Thank you very much.

Robert Peterson 48:52
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